Pop Quiz: You are hanging out at home and you don’t feel like doing anything – not the 87 tasks on your to-do list, not meeting your girls for lunch as planned – nothing. Do you know how to get motivated when you just don’t feel like moving off the couch? Here are 4 proven steps you can take that will get you back on track in no time!
A couple of days ago, my motivation disappeared.
One day it was here, and the next, POOF! I didn’t know how to regain my motivation and feel inspired again – I just wanted to lay on the couch on my patio and sleep the day away in the sunshine, without a care in the world.
how To Get Motivated when you Don’t Want to do anything
How do you get motivated when you are totally uninspired? Good question.
It’s not like I had nothing to do. I had a whole list of activities I wanted to accomplish.
The motivation to do them just wasn’t there.
I couldn’t truly relax, because I was frustrated about not getting anything done. But I didn’t feel like doing any of the many items on my to-do list, or anything else, for that matter.
Not doing anything only increased my frustration. But didn’t motivate me to do a thing.
Do you see the endless circle I had gotten myself into?
I had to do something.
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How did I regain my motivation?
I actually regained my motivation by researching the topic of motivation – understanding the theory behind it gave me insight into what was going on inside my own head.
Taking some time to learn about the nature of motivation helped me understand my experience. Motivation naturally ebbs and flows, and there are ways to build it back up when my cup is feeling empty.
I learned 4 tricks that help to regain motivation
- Understand What’s Going on in Your Mind
- Know Where Can You Find Support
- Take Smaller Steps Toward Your Goal
- Control What You Can, and Let Go of the Rest
Guess what? Learning about motivation really made an impact.
Once I understood more about what factors were holding me back – and how my own behaviors were contributing – I was able to step forward and get back to my project. I feel like I “got my groove back”.
Read on and learn about these 4 tricks to regain your motivation, even if you are in a major life slump.
How to Get Motivated When You’re in a slump
1. Understand What’s Going on in Your Mind
Do you lack clarity about what you want?
Are your goals fuzzy, or do you have a clear sense of what you are trying to accomplish?
Are you clear on what your next action needs to be?
Not the final project, but the very next thing you need to do.
Do you know HOW to do your next step?
If not, do you know what to do in order to learn how to do it?
Do you understand your “why”?
What is your reason for wanting to do whatever it is you want to do but lack motivation for? If you don’t know why you want to do something, is it any wonder you don’t feel like doing it?
Know your why.
Is there fear involved?
Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of criticism, fear that you won’t get the results you were hoping for – all kinds of fears can be subtly creeping in, and any one or combination of these fears can zap your motivation.
“If you can remember why you started, then you will know why you must continue.”
Chris Burkmenn
2. Know Where Can You Find Support
Consider your past successes.
How did you feel when you completed a task similar to the one you are currently undertaking?
Was there a sense of pride and accomplishment?
Can you transfer those positive emotions you felt then to how you will feel when you complete your current activity?
Find inspiration from other people.
There is a reason that people love “before and after” stories and case studies.
The success others have can definitely stir your motivation and give you new resolve. “If they can do it, I can, too!” is a common response when you learn about others succeeding.
Make your goal public.
Tell others what you are planning, and find others who will take on a challenge with you, or will check in on you to see that you are moving forward.
Feeling that responsibility when you have committed to someone else is a powerful motivator. If you don’t have anyone in your immediate life who will support you, look online for support groups.
“Fall down seven times, get up eight.”
Japanese Proverb
3. Take Smaller Steps Toward Your Goal
If you feel overwhelmed by a task, and lose motivation just thinking about how much effort is involved, try breaking the task into very, very small bites.
Break the tasks into the smallest possible steps.
Don’t commit to an hour a day at the gym.
Try a two-minute exercise video at home first.
Then a four-minute video.
Build up.
If two minutes seems like too much, make your first task even smaller – just put on your workout clothes.
That’s it.
Start with the SMALLEST task you can do that takes you in the direction you want to go.
Reward yourself after each step.
Just a little something. As your motivation begins to return, maybe space your rewards out to every three steps. Or a certain amount of time that you are focused on reaching your goal.
Gradually increase both the size of your rewards and the amount of effort needed to reach the next one.
Focus on only ONE goal at a time.
This can be a real challenge, but it is important to do, especially if you are taking these small steps.
One tiny little step followed by another on the way to the same goal will create momentum.
One tiny step toward one goal, then a tiny step toward a different goal, followed by a third tiny step toward yet another goal, will get you nowhere fast.
Choose ONE goal at a time.
“I didn’t come this far to only come this far.”
Author Unknown
4. Control What You Can, and Let Go of the Rest
Reframe your negative thoughts into positive ones.
“I have to write this article” becomes “I have chosen to write this article in order to benefit my career path”;
“I can’t have a slice of cake because I have to lose weight” becomes “I have chosen to eat nutritiously because I want a healthier body”;
“My kitchen is a hopeless disaster” becomes “I am looking forward to having a cleaner kitchen.”
Create a schedule.
Determine how long you will work on any particular aspect of your activity.
Identify time to plan and organize, time to do particular steps, and a time when you will stop for the day.
Knowing you have already built in a stop time will mentally cue you to focus during the time you are working.
Establish Good Habits.
Ever notice how professional athletes all maintain pre-game rituals to help prepare themselves mentally and physically for the game? They may eat the same meal, recite the same mantra, and kick the dirt three times before they go up to bat – all of these little rituals are habits that remind them that “this is what I am about to do.”
If you lack motivation for a routine activity, try creating your own pre-game rituals so that moving into it becomes somewhat automatic.
Accept that burnout is real.
You may truly be at a point where you cannot keep working on your project. You must take control of your burnout, however, and not let it ruin what you have worked for up to this point.
Take a break, but plan your break wisely.
Set a time frame, and do something very different from the actions involved in your project. If you are doing a mental project, go for a run or other physical activity. If you have been working on a computer, take a walk outside.
Whatever you do for your break, it must really be a break.
Work your way through these four steps, and you are sure to regain your motivation and start moving forward once again in life!
Read some best-selling books on motivation for women.
Read More:
- How (and Why) Your Daily Routines Determine Your Future
- 10 Journal Prompts For Setting – and Achieving – Your Goals
- Do Checklists Work? How to Make a To-Do List That’s Useful For You
- 4 Signs its Time to Change Your Daily Routine
Final Thoughts on How to Get Motivated and Feel Inspired Again
Motivation is such a complex subject, and very hard to address thoroughly in a short post such as this. There are methods to regain motivation when you are running low. Several methods include:
Understand your activity, why you want to accomplish it, and the steps involved. Pay attention to knowledge gaps and emotional reactions.
Get support from past successes and other people.
Focus on only one goal at a time, and break it down into the smallest steps possible.
Determine what you can control. Reframe your negative thoughts, get organized, establish good habits, and recognize when you need to take breaks and do something different.
Nice Post .
I LOVE this post – so many great points and tips, I find myself having an ebb and flow times when it comes to motivation, and it’s really important to have a plan for when I can feel myself losing my drive. I am a huge believer in a set routine and good habits – they are my lifeline when I lack the energy I usually have. Than you for sharing these important tips.
Madi, I wrote this post when I was feeling super unmotivated, so it kind of wrote itself! I’m so glad you found it useful. Thanks for reading!